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Boring Men are Cool




How many times have you gone "awwww" for all those viral proposal videos?

Like any of these?

If you bothered to click on the link, you would realize that majority of these were created for movies.

In reality, the men of our lives are unexciting, uninteresting and boring.

But hey, what is wrong with that?

I recently read a Huffpost article titled The Real Truth About Boring Men - and the women who live with them.

And I'm telling you that you should read it.

It opened my eyes about the unfair expectation we are subjecting our men into.  Sort of like "setting them up to fail" by having impossible, out of this world romantic ideas of what they should do and how they ought to be.

Ladies, not all men can be Ryan Gosling (or Zoren Legaspi).

And Christian Grey exists only in books.

In reality, men work for a living, they fix the lights, they take out the garbage, leave the toilet seats up... and watch ball games with beer.

Sometimes, you're lucky enough to get a guy who's willing to do the barbecue, or take the children to school. 

And that is more than enough.

If you wanted someone fun, imaginative and surprising. Go and get yourself some clown or a magician.

Because ladies, men are not meant to be romantic.  They are bred to be tough, rational and dependable.

And those traits require effort and consistency. 

Who cares if he is dull and unimaginative?  As long as you can count on him to rush to your side when you need a shoulder to cry on. These are the kind of guys who would not waste a minute for a sidetrip to a flowershop if they know that you need them. 

Relationships are built not on those fleeting, overtly sweet moments but on the daily struggle to stay commited no matter what.  And in this, the ordinary, boring guy's slow and steady pace wins the race.

So if the guy you have values loyalty, commitment and responsibility over roses, wine and chocolates... if he would rather wash the car than belt out a Stevie Wonder song... be thankful.

Because these are the guys that stay.

And show their love in a much more meaningful but subtle way.

Note:  Image from the Village Voice blog

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  1. "Relationships are built not on those fleeting, overtly sweet moments but on the daily struggle to stay commited no matter what. And in this, the ordinary, boring guy's slow and steady pace wins the race."

    i like this... nice blog.

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    1. Hey Teri,

      Thanks so much. And thanks for reading. Happy Holidays!

      -Bani

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