Ready, Aim, Love!

I am in love with the article by Matt Walsh titled : I Wasn't Ready for Marriage

Probably the sincerest statement about marriage I have ever come across. 

If there is one advice, for the commitmentphobes out there, this is it:

If there's one thing about life that I wish everyone would consider -- particularly my peers, and those younger than me -- it's that you'll never do the big things if you're waiting until you're ready to do them.

Take a risk. 

If you love a person, do not wait to be ready.

A lot of people have their idea of their right age to marry.  Well, there is no right age.  You marry when you meet the right person.  Not earlier or later than that.

How many of us have regrets over the things we did not do? When we have tried to put off doing something because we thought we are not ready?  When we let our fear of being unsure ruin our future?

But why not take a chance with the one we love.

If there is one regret I have in life, its that I have not taken the chance to allow myself to fully commit to someone.  If there is a 50/50 chance of you winning the lotto, will you not bet on it?  Same goes for marriage, we all have a 50/50 chance of being happy.  So why not take it?

 Then he goes on to say:

In fact there is, as far as I can tell, only one form of "not ready" that should possibly stop you from walking down that aisle: immaturity. If you are prepared to dump someone you profess to "love" because they chew with their mouth open or leave wet towels on the floor, you have a maturity issue. And remember, it's YOUR issue.

Love is all about maturity.  When we think of relationships not as a series of highs but of something we need to work on every day, then we will not hesitate to make the effort. Every success is a product of hard work.  Relationships, more so. And it is the hard work of both partners.

We need to realize that love is not all sweet and sugary romance.  It is also about being sensible and practical.  It is learning to pick your battles, accepting your partner’s weirdness, working on your own and deciding to love them in spite of it all.

He is right.

There are a lot of people we will meet which we are not ready for. 

But should we take the chance of losing them in our lives?

Are we ready for that?

There is no checklist for love and getting it right.

Only the knowledge that we will never find out if we are too afraid to try.

Happy hearts day everyone!