On Breaking Up With A Friend
I’ve had my share of female friendships over the last 3
decades of my existence.
Some of them I am glad to have, some I’ve learned to let go of, one way or another.
Having a solid set of girlfriends is a necessity for every woman. And even someone unemotional and unlady like as me, needs those girlish moments of perk me up chats and life affirming advise that only girlfriends can give.
Still, there are those moments when we feel like closing the door (and windows) on some friends. Sometimes temporarily, sometimes indefinitely.
And that is OK.
We should have no qualms about cutting people off and severing those worthless connections. Life is too short for “no good” friends.
At this point in our lives, we should have learned to foster the right kind of friendships. Those that really matter to us and make us better. Friends who are not so much like us, but those who would give depth and meaning to our lives. The ones who will remain with us through the whole of our existence even when we have ceased hating the same person, liking the same books or going to the same movies.
And in this current generation where the meaning of “friends” transcends to that of people we haven’t met and know nothing about, it is a good idea to reflect on the value rather than the numbers.
After all, this is not a Miss Congeniality contest but real life.
And in real life, friends are the family we choose for ourselves.
Some of them I am glad to have, some I’ve learned to let go of, one way or another.
Having a solid set of girlfriends is a necessity for every woman. And even someone unemotional and unlady like as me, needs those girlish moments of perk me up chats and life affirming advise that only girlfriends can give.
Still, there are those moments when we feel like closing the door (and windows) on some friends. Sometimes temporarily, sometimes indefinitely.
And that is OK.
We should have no qualms about cutting people off and severing those worthless connections. Life is too short for “no good” friends.
At this point in our lives, we should have learned to foster the right kind of friendships. Those that really matter to us and make us better. Friends who are not so much like us, but those who would give depth and meaning to our lives. The ones who will remain with us through the whole of our existence even when we have ceased hating the same person, liking the same books or going to the same movies.
And in this current generation where the meaning of “friends” transcends to that of people we haven’t met and know nothing about, it is a good idea to reflect on the value rather than the numbers.
After all, this is not a Miss Congeniality contest but real life.
And in real life, friends are the family we choose for ourselves.
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Ouch. Hindi lang pala ako nag iisa regarding sa ganyan. Just this year, I broke up with my best friend. My girl best friend. I don’t feel like a best friend anymore nor is she to me. Okay lang sa akin na nagbago siya, yun lang sinama niya sa pagbabago niya yung pagkakaibigan namin.
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Hi Terry, that is sad but I am confident that you would find yourself a better friend. No use fostering unhealthy relationships. Sabi nga sa Frozen: Let it go....let it go... :-)
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